We have a local organization called Unity Gardens whose primary focus is planting and tending garden patches in the city through donation and volunteerism. The produce from these gardens is free for the picking with the hope that with the availability of fresh produce, the diet of many impoverished or underemployed families will improve. As a side project they also hold gardening classes or clinics for the public in coordination with Purdue (the Indiana land grant college) extension office's Master Gardener program. Over the winter, they have held these classes in office space set aside for them in the local food bank. My daughter and I have been attending the Jr. Master Gardener classes on Saturdays and have really enjoyed the experience. The younger kiddies have been coming for the last couple of sessions and seem to also enjoy it. We have learned about how plants grow, bees and other pollinators, herbs and most recently voted for our favorite vegetable in a vigorous democratic process in which candidate representatives vied for our vote with delectable treats featuring their vegetable of choice. It ended up in a tie between corn and carrots.
This recent experience was, however, marred for me. As the class is open to the public, one would think that a vast cross section of the populace would be in attendance. This is not what I have observed to be the case. The class is generally attended by the children of people already interested and experienced in gardening. This is not all bad really as the kids are engaged and feel a connection to the topics as they relate to home experiences in their own gardens. This is put into sharp contrast when the occasional more 'urban' youth are in class. As a example, in the great vegetable debate a young man was brought to class sucking on a ring-pop like an oversize pacifier by what I am guessing was an assigned big-brother or mentor of some kind. Hope of sparking a love of gardening and good nutrition where quickly dashed as the boy loudly pronounced all vegetable candidates set before him as 'Nasty' and just as loudly demanded more of the sweeter dishes (Carrot cake and Carmel popcorn). Aside from displaying the disappointing problems with an instant-gratification / entitlement society, it makes me lament for the future of young men like this one who have come to expect that at least once a week a 'buddy' will come by to take him on a trip somewhere and give him ring-pops and other treats he wants so long as he makes his
needs clear. Assuredly it is asking to much to expect a life change from a single two hour class, but is it asking to much for a healthy amount of respect or at least attentiveness when seeing something new. It must be a struggle to find that fine line between developing a trusting mentor-ship in which the kid feels safe and cared for and enabling destructive behaviors.
In comparison, I recall struggling with my own kids over trying new things. We were taking a cruise in the Caribbean and as is usual on a cruise, the evening meals were part dinner show and part unending avalanche of food. One could order to their hearts content from selections of choice cuts of beef, tender pork, lobster and so on. I placed a requirement on my kids that they try one new thing every night on the cruise. While this was meet with some grumbling, they did all comply. This did not always end in a sudden realization of how tasty buttered lobster is, at least they can say they tried it. The biggest difference between them and the ring-pop sucker was that even in my kids complaints there was an expectation and understanding that they would eventually do as asked. This is not a ringing endorsement of the superiority of my kids or parenting style because, frankly, they don't always mind or immediately comply without complaint. Over the years however, they have been given boundaries and held to task even amidst complaint and this, I think, has made all the difference.